Why The Daily Deposit Newsletter

Life Happens

Life happens. Before you realize it is happening, the days, months, and years fly by. Unfortunately, a by-product of our hectic lives is that we stop being students of our spouse and begin only talking in logistics and facts.

It happens to every long-term couple, in the beginning everything is so new and fresh, we cannot know enough about that special person. Eventually the job, the kids, the routine, it all sets in and we stop learning about our spouse’s goals, desires, who they really are.

Instead, the desire to truly see and hear your spouse is replaced with a quick kiss (if that on some days) and straight into what’s for dinner, weather, practice schedules, bills, household chores, and the list could keep on going.

When life happens, it is easy to prioritize everything else over your relationship. In the short-term, it seems like the only way to get through it, but in the long-term it has disastrous results.

On top of all that, social media makes it seem like you must go on weekly dates, extravagant vacations, and perform elaborate romantic gestures to keep “the spark” alive.

While these things are great, who has the time, energy, and money to coordinate and plan all of that on a consistent basis. There must be something more practical, right?

I would contend that the solution to this dilemma is changing how we communicate to our special person. Not by forcing long drawn out conversations, but by taking 5-10 minutes of highly focused and intentional time to communicate feelings, needs, and beliefs, not just facts and logistics of the day.

The Daily Deposit Newsletter Goal

In fitness, it’s not the 1 great workout that will get you in shape, but it’s the daily showing up, good or bad, motivated or not, that will get you where you want to be.

Likewise, in our marriages, it’s not the 1 great vacation or the anniversary date that will keep “the spark” alive, but it’s taking the small consistent actions together to protect and grow the relationship.

The Daily Deposit Newsletter provides a channel of communication that goes beyond facts and logistics of life to promote short, high quality conversations. Each daily question and conversation create a micro-thread of intimacy between the couple. Over time the micro-deposits will compound, creating a stronger bond and greater intimacy.